I have come across countless folks in my life who appeared deeply exhausted mentally and depleted emotionally despite having solvable complexities in their lives. Most of the times, though, the cause did appear more intrinsic than extrinsic, but their temptations to put blame on external unseen forces made them subconsciously seekers of sympathy from people around them, deep- down a ‘fatalist’; a puppet of supreme powers with sealed destiny which at times made me think : Is he justified in thinking so or is there something else beyond it?
I always viewed getting acquainted with different kinds of peeps as a great opportunity to learn, understand more about people, perspective, life and what not; who came from different spaces of life, strikingly different demographics, contrast perspectives, diverse cultures, incomprehensible languages, unknown ethnicity and so on , right from the one who claimed being ‘ a self-made wo(man)’ who ran against all odds eventually ending up creating history to those who had totally surrendered themselves to the will of celestial powers. Though, in these two extreme categories of people, I observed two different patterns of actions and thinking. 1. People who constantly considered themselves ill-destined dwelling more on concerns, worries, negative thoughts coming from the failures of the past contrary to the hardworking successful beings who continuously focused on futuristic thinking and took their past failures as lessons to grow. 2. Both of them have a very different outlook towards the life:Individuals lingering on past & brooding over ‘why only me had to face it’ whereas the whole world seemed to enjoy everything, focusing on just discovering new problems sticking them in past Vs people who indulged in solutions-oriented approach to sort out things and march ahead by either eradicating odds completely or mitigating the influence of odds. 3. Risk – A huge difference; the former always dreads crossing the boundaries of safety and security woven by themselves only mentally; having almost zero risk taking ability. 4. Some other traits are listed below based on my observation and interactions:
Creating a comfort zone around them at different levels-
Geographical Social Psychological Financial Subconsciously always made fatalists giving lame excuses to others to defend themselves.
5. Zero time and money investment on upskilling kept the former way behind the World. 6. Lack of the ability to do genuine self-introspection, living constantly in denial mode. 7. Surrounded by a bunch of enablers who feed off their false ideology expressing sympathy towards them, making them feel justified in their thinking and actions keeping them in the unending loop of feeling victimized.
8. Being utterly focused on what they don’t have rather than what they have. 9. Baseless comparisons fueling negativity & envy. 10. Adopting shortcuts or unscrupulous means bypassing legit or desirable practices. 11. Zero or no patience to see things turning around in their favor; having baseless expectations like happening miracles. 12. Expecting exponential returns with negligible investments (in all spheres of life). 13. Staying skeptical about others and filled with self-doubts. 14. Just thinking, either no, or very little action.
15. Lack of perseverance and resilience.
Whether fate, luck, destiny or whatever you may term it, is an illusion, mental construction or some real unseen force, has been and will always be a debatable question. There can’t be a definite answer to it. Various philosophers, sages, gurus have made attempts to decode it, tried solving this mystery since time immemorial. However, we can’t deny the unfairness of life which is not uniform to all (Period).
The world has witnessed enough in last two years- loss of lives, fatal pandemic, killings in civil wars, dreadful violence, political turbulence, frustration, economic and financial crisis, job loss, shutting down of rising businesses, massive loss to companies, startups, so on… affecting lives of each and everyone in some way or the other in different degrees. However, not to forget that there are examples of exceptional resilience as well which led many individuals to rebuild themselves from the scratch with new hopes and ideas during this period.
I personally believe that with consistent efforts, right approach, constructive attitude and positive mindset things can get far better if not the best, life can become much smoother if not lavish, one can create enough wealth to live happily if not like an elite.
There are certainly many things in life which are not in our hands, but that doesn’t mean everything. Does it?
#womensequalityday2021#womensequalityday It is an established fact that gender inequalities severely hurt not only individual, social & economic development of a society, or nation but also shows its impact on overall human behaviour, thus affecting the World from all the angles. Gender equality works at breaking the stereotypes of the patriarchal society. However, the good news is that in past few years not only developed western countries , but many countries with weaker economies, conservative culture have also seen and understood the need to maintain gender equality to steadily progress at all the levels. Nonetheless, to assess and gauge as to how much work is actually happening at the ground level, I went through some intriguing studies substantiated with facts, figures, diagram, leaving almost no stone unturned to give enough glimpses to do a reality check. https://www.weforum.org/reports/ab6795a1-960c-42b2-b3d5-587eccda6023 #WahWoman#Ecocivilisation#society#gender#diversity#genderequality#leadership
#wahwoman#wahwomanperspectives#Season2#Love#Ecocivilisation#humanbeings Most of us are very lucky to have at least one person in our life with whom we can share our feeling and thoughts without the any filter ,fear of being judged , mocked or spilling the beans to the whole world .According to an intriguing scientific fact” in general people lose about half of the friends and replace them with new ones after about seven years.” However, my personal experience about friendship has nothing been like this.Unquestionably, genuine friends always enrich our life in every possible way, strengthens us, both emotionally and mentally.But how difficult it is to find a true friend in times of social media? Has anything changed about the perception about friendship? With such queries, I met some girls, here is what they have to say, watch it!
#InternationlYouthDay2021 On Sunday, August 8 th, Japan brought the curtain down on the #TokyoOlympics, (undoubtedly, a much needed event during these hard hitting times, despite many wanting to call it off, but the show went on incredibly well) giving us numerous enchanting moments- pride, hope, cheer, curiosity, worry and high adrenaline rush; covering the entire spectrum of emotions by and large. Historically the Games have been used as a platform to raise awareness about cultural, political and socio-economic issues. Here the most intriguing aspect is that the world witnessed some rising stars, as young as in the middle school making the history at Tokyo Olympics. Though, there is no specific age limit for taking part in the Olympic Games. This depends on each International Sports Federation and the rules it lays down for its sport, but individual sports have eligibility limits. Gymnasts, for example, must be 16 years old to compete at the Games, while boxers must have turned 18. Olympic skateboarding, notably, has no minimum age requirement, opening the door for young competitors like Brown and Hiraki. The youngest Olympian in the modern history of the games to win a medal was 10-year-old Dimitrios Loundras, a Greek gymnast who helped his team win a bronze medal in team parallel bars at the 1896 Athens Summer Games. Tokyo’s youngest competitor was 12-year-old Syrian table tennis prodigy Hend Zaza, Be it youth Olympics games or #olympics gives equal opportunities to #men and #women players a stupendous and incredible international platformto showcase their charisma to the world. a special platform for youngsters to rise and announce themselves. Three cheers to #youthpower #Ecocivilisation#WahWoman#Togetherweknow#sport#football#soccer#tennis#sports#soccer
#KunjaraniDevi, the mentor of #Mirabai may have never won an Olympic medal but on Saturday, she had the pleasure of seeing her “student” Mirabai doing so in Tokyo.
“Most people enjoy reaping the returns but are not consistent enough in putting the efforts required to tend to fruits, It is important to not give up and find what works for you within the means available” says the Kiwi queen Sita Devi from Tehri district, #Uttrakhand, India who was determined to nurture her dreams and give shape to her destiny despite disapproval, denial by all around her. Read her story:
A recent post on how a #Ukrainian low cost flight replaced #highheels with sneakers highlighting comfort as priority got me a bit curious to dig out some fun- facts to learn more about the historical account of ‘high heel’ which has always been predominantly associated more with females than males in contemporary times. Ofcourse, heels is a long and complicated source of feminist debate. Feminine, power, poised, professional, stylish, elegant are some of the superlatives used more metaphorically to highlight high heel relationship with women which are far above from the idea of desire to look taller and not confined to a specific gender and not exclusive to women alone. According to some websites, Women did not begin wearing heels until the mid-1500’s and wore only platform shoes. The first recorded high heel on a woman was worn by Catherine de Medici.King Louis XIV re-popularized the high heel during his reign in the late 1600’s and early 1700’s who was known to wear red heeled shoes, a design feature now most well associated with and trademarked by Christian Louboutin shoes. It is believed that back in time, Men wore high heels around this time not only as a wealth and status symbol but also to feel more powerful. With the evolution of fashion industry and trends, the purpose to wear heels also changed. It is believed that in 1700’s, women in some societies wore heels to make their feet look smaller. It is said that World war ii made a massive impact on heels trends.
Unfortunately, wearing high heels can cause damage to one’s body in the long run is the fact known to all by now, despite it, the high heel trend has never been on decline for either gender, though the industry has undergone innumerable experiments to keep the side effects of wearing high heels at bay and by integrating the greater factor of comfort and convenience as fashion is incomplete without the element of comfort, Isn’t it guys?
